I don’t have to eat everything that is served up on the buffet. Any more than I have to believe everything I am told, or buy into everything I read, its all a choice, I get to believe whatever I want even if I choose to believe the truth or the lie.
I am an old fashioned person I guess, I have my values and they are not and will not ever be excepted by everyone, but they won’t be changed either in order to just be accepted by someone else either, I know who I am, what I believe and what I expect of others. I believe letting people know where I stand is respecting others. There are consequences for stepping on boundaries.
I can agree to disagree, and not buy into the bull, I can feel badly for the person that wants to manipulate the sitution with the drama, the past is the past it cannot be changed, looking back will give you a crooked neck and make you lose sight of the future. And usually make you feel pretty dumb also.
Drama is almost always based on the past, no matter how much a person has apologized for a mistake, it always takes two people to move forward, it is virtually impossible for the relationships to go forward with only one playing fairly, it is not really forgiven if you are still throwing it in the face of someone else. Let’s face it, if you didn’t let it go, you didn’t forgive it either, or you just wouldn’t keep bringing it up, and maybe you just really didn’t know this truth till right this moment.
However, If you are the violator, who has done a mortal sin against someone else, you have more than one obligation, the first is to get right with God, and the second is to get right with the person who was hurt, unless to do so would cause more harm to your victim or their family, in this case God may let you do your penance another way. And Jail or the end of a rope is still acceptable to the most agreegious of crimes.
I have never been a perfect person myself, I probably judge myself as much as God does, I do try to tell God my shortcomings and ask him to work in my heart to make me who he wants me to be. But because of his love for me I know he does not expect me to be a doormat, he does want me to advocate for those who cannot speek for themselves.
I believe in following the law, God’s and Man’s and knowing that is how the world works best, However when the laws of the land conflict with God’s law, and my own beliefs, I know which one to follow. For the Lord hold’s my heart and soul in his hands, I am not a fool.
Holidays are hard, old feelings bloom and the blood red poinsettias are pointed and painted when old feelings are not forgiven and discomfort of the past races and rages in the heart of hurting people, and the reality of the truth is hurting people hurt others.
All we can do is try to listen, keep to the truth as diplomatically as possible, and ask how we can help? And be willing to know that there is no real help for the hurting from humans on an emotional level, but God can heal all hurts and pains, all we need to do is ask.
Some folks definatately need to talk it out, wrestle with the past and try to find prospective especially those who were abused, they need to know that they did not ever do anything to “deserve” what happened to them, however when we are adults we also must look at our part in things. Relearn how to keep ourselves safe when the trust is broken, in our broken world of anything goes, know that it does not go in all the universe.
And heck yes! I am judgemental of unjust behaviors of individuals who hurt others with dileberate mortal sin behavior, especially those who claim to know God and then hurt another knowingly and willingly. This type of henus act is Mortal Sin: There are three conditions necessary for Mortal Sin to exist: Grave Matter: the act itself is intrinsically evil and immoral. For Example: murder, rape, incest, perjury, adultery, and so on are grave matter. Full Knowledge: the person must know that what they’re doing or planning to do is evil and immoral.
Wrong will always be wrong, even in a world that wants to try to make wrong right, drop accountability out the window, and have an everybody does it attitude. Just because everybody does it, doesn’t make it right.
Just because someone says it don’t make it true, and just because someone justify’s it doesn’t make it legal!